30 Days of Truth: Day 4
Something you have to forgive someone for.
I might need to look up the definition for forgive for this one.
While there are people who can cause me to outwardly show signs of contempt when I think about them, I’m not quite sure that means I haven’t forgiven them.
Liar, Liar Pants on Fire™ and lots of people related to him come to mind. But remembering and being repulsed at the thought of their existence is not necessarily a result of my inability to forgive. It’s a defense mechanism. It’s how people in bad relationships get out and stay out.
They associate that yucky unpleasantness with a mental image of the asshat so that they aren’t destined to repeat their mistakes. Then they stay away.
So maybe I still need to forgive my ex for his disrespect, and maybe I don’t. I’m not ready to tackle that one, and I don’t feel the need to at this point.
Aside from the whole marriage debacle, I don’t really feel like anyone’s done me all that wrong. People are just people. Yeah, I was picked on in grade school like everyone else. People have lied to me, been rude to me, and manipulated me. But those are moments, incidents. Just people trying to make their way through the world without an instruction manual—that’s how I see it. It’s rarely a habitual problem from the same person, and when it is? Well, I find divorce works really well.